Community
Posted: Tue Apr 07, 2009 5:06 pm
Hi all,
I've been feeling pretty frustrated for a little bit, & thought I should just clearly state it rather than stew/hint around.
There is a lot of value in community. I know how frustrating it must be for some people, to see people come in, ask stupid questions, behave rudely, etc. Oh, I know! I've felt frustrated by some posters too.
I've found though that in all honesty, a polite response to them goes a long way. I feel that too often the responses from some of the pillars of the community tend to be more snarky/hostile than need be.
I want to point out a comparison between CMSMS and another cms I've started using. There are many, many more posts in their forums. They don't moderate as heavily as here. They don't post nasty responses. I can find you a dozen or more threads in which they respond politely to someone who has behaved incredibly rudely.
Yes, you are under no obligation to do this, of course! but isn't it better to say nothing, than to say something rude?
At the end of the day, their community continues to grow. The rude person probably doesn't come back, & probably is never a useful member, but you know what?
Other people see the incredibly polite & patient responses, and feel good about the community they are in. They stick around. They help. They feel badly for the people who shoulder this, & help out. As a result they have an enormous community with a huge quantity of modules.
That's where I think CMSMS is lacking. The community has created a "give me more" mentality, unintentionally, by responding harshly & with snark, when a polite word (or, even better perhaps, ignoring rude posts entirely) would have done a much better job.
I totally understand the nature of this project--volunteer--I serve on several volunteer boards in my day to day life--and, the truth of the matter is, while you don't HAVE to do anything, I do really believe it will help your community. I really believe that working on being polite, on responding kindly first, has more value than the very impressive technical work being done.
Instead of badgering or belittling, just be polite
I personally am moving on. I feel that without some substantial efforts, this project is in a state of decline. Security fixes & UI improvements are great, but all too often, I see community interest ignored or minimalized by people who have the attitude that they are asked to do too much work. While I sympathize with them, I also think that they could just let it slide, and let some other member of the community take up the work sometimes! No need to be so defensive. It encourages the same problems that lead to the initial rudeness.
What I'm trying to get at is, it's not the person who first posted who you are responding to. It's everyone for all time whoever reads the forums. If they see nastiness, it breeds nastiness. If they see intimidation tactics & hostility, they are out. They aren't going to stick around. I'd really like to encourage everyone who uses these forums to keep in mind that responses set a tone, and if it's a nasty tone, the whole environment is affected.
Best--
I've been feeling pretty frustrated for a little bit, & thought I should just clearly state it rather than stew/hint around.
There is a lot of value in community. I know how frustrating it must be for some people, to see people come in, ask stupid questions, behave rudely, etc. Oh, I know! I've felt frustrated by some posters too.
I've found though that in all honesty, a polite response to them goes a long way. I feel that too often the responses from some of the pillars of the community tend to be more snarky/hostile than need be.
I want to point out a comparison between CMSMS and another cms I've started using. There are many, many more posts in their forums. They don't moderate as heavily as here. They don't post nasty responses. I can find you a dozen or more threads in which they respond politely to someone who has behaved incredibly rudely.
Yes, you are under no obligation to do this, of course! but isn't it better to say nothing, than to say something rude?
At the end of the day, their community continues to grow. The rude person probably doesn't come back, & probably is never a useful member, but you know what?
Other people see the incredibly polite & patient responses, and feel good about the community they are in. They stick around. They help. They feel badly for the people who shoulder this, & help out. As a result they have an enormous community with a huge quantity of modules.
That's where I think CMSMS is lacking. The community has created a "give me more" mentality, unintentionally, by responding harshly & with snark, when a polite word (or, even better perhaps, ignoring rude posts entirely) would have done a much better job.
I totally understand the nature of this project--volunteer--I serve on several volunteer boards in my day to day life--and, the truth of the matter is, while you don't HAVE to do anything, I do really believe it will help your community. I really believe that working on being polite, on responding kindly first, has more value than the very impressive technical work being done.
Instead of badgering or belittling, just be polite

What I'm trying to get at is, it's not the person who first posted who you are responding to. It's everyone for all time whoever reads the forums. If they see nastiness, it breeds nastiness. If they see intimidation tactics & hostility, they are out. They aren't going to stick around. I'd really like to encourage everyone who uses these forums to keep in mind that responses set a tone, and if it's a nasty tone, the whole environment is affected.
Best--